Fearing failure - and how to handle it
For the past 10 months I have been studying to take the medical examiners board for health coaching - an exam that would take my coaching credentials to the highest level. For 95% of this journey I told very few people about it. I kept it to myself because in the back of my head, I knew there's a chance I may not pass. I feared failure. I feared what others would think - what I would tell them - if I didn't pass. I feared putting myself out there with the chance I may not succeed. I got curious about this - I asked myself what I was making it mean if I had to tell people I didn't pass. And I realized - it didn't matter. Pass or not - it didn't matter what others thought. It only matters what I think - and how I feel. And I feel proud. Proud of believing in myself strongly enough to set a big goal, to step outside my comfort zone - to go for it even if there's a chance I “fail”. Proud of my dedication - of the time I chose to study when it was the last thing I wanted to do. Proud of the growth I experienced. Proud of fearing never knowing MORE than I feared failure. There's always a chance you may not succeed (for this exam it's about a 30-40% chance) but there's a 100% chance you won't succeed if you don't try. I took my chances. I bet on myself. I stopped keeping it quiet. And in eight weeks, I'll find out if I passed. But no matter what, I know I didn't fail. I've gained so much from this experience - and that's always worth it. Where are you holding back because you fear failure? Maybe you aren't taking time for yourself because you fear the failure of not being there for your kids - or having to say “no” to someone or something. Maybe you aren't confident in your body but you fear the failure of yet another “plan” that doesn't work. Maybe you aren't investing in yourself because you fear the failure of not fully believing you are capable of change. What are you making this “failure” mean? And would you be willing to let it all go for the chance that you COULD succeed - that you could feel healthier and more confident, that you could lose the weight (and keep it off), that you could be consistent - that you could feel proud. Failure can be so scary but staying in a place where you don't feel your best is the scariest place you can be.
My clients don't let a fear failure stop them - they know there is so much more. They know that when they are willing to try, when they are willing to step outside their comfort zone and go after what they want - they always gain more than they could ever lose. It's time to bet on yourself. Click below and schedule a free consultation and learn EXACTLY what this will look like for you.